Anonymous whispered,
hey im a 17 year old guy and me and my girlfriend have messed around before and almost everytime right after i get hard and she starts going to work i go soft. we want to have sex soon and i was just wondering if you guys had any tips about being able to keep my erection. its embarrassing not being able to stay hard with my girlfriend. (who is extremely attractive by the way)
Are you nervous?
Nervousness is the biggest deal, especially for teenage guys. Especially if condoms haven’t come into play yet (some guys, like me, aren’t sensitive enough to stay super-hard with a condom on) and you’re definitely attracted to her.
If you aren’t nervous (which you can help to stop by talking it out with her, and explaining how you’re psyching yourself out, and asking her to work with you), well, erectile dysfunction is rare in young men but it can certainly happen. Luckily we live in 2012 and there are tons of medications to help with even that.
Basically if you think this is mental in nature, ask her to try to help you feel more relaxed. Otherwise, bring it up with your doctor and see if they can refer you to anyone. Also, just thought of this, make sure she’s stimulating you accurately. Some men need near-constant stimulation, and if she’s not doing much it may not be enough to keep you hard. Good luck!
-E